scenario 1: xh got angry, threw tantrum and being rude to her two elder brothers when she could not choose her desired video on youtube. the reason simply because it’s not her turn yet. she has to wait for two elder brothers’ turn before hers. she got impatient and threw tantrum.
the previous solution: i had to take out my tablet and let her watch on her own and the brothers watch theirs on tv.
results: xh is not co-operative. often threw tantrum and being rude to her brothers.
i was thinking “this isn’t right. we might have resolve the immediate problem. but subsequent, the same issue happens, she became more impatient and does not show respect to her brothers. i need a right solution to make sure that xh waits for her turn patiently and show respect to her elder brothers.
me : “meimei, you need to wait for your turn patiently.”
xh : 😡
me : “meimei, you must be happy that as least you can choose. daddy and mummy NEVER get to choose! everytime, da ge choose, er ge choose, meimei choose, how about daddy and mummy?” *fake cry* —> drama mama
xh : looked stunted
me : “i NEVER choose before! HOW...!?!?” *fake cry* —> drama mama
xh : calmed down and she hugged me.
me : “you see? da ge have to wait for er ge and you, er ge has to wait for da ge and you. all three of you have to wait, no one has higher priority.”
xh : looked at me quietly as if she can understand <— i hoped she really did.
me : “so can you wait patiently for your turn?”
xh : nod her head
do you think this is end of story? neh. parenting is about patience and consistency. you need to consistent in your teaching and also consistently remind them along the way.
now i finally brought the correct message across, and i will consistently remind her using the method above to make her realised that everyone has to wait patiently for their turn. no one has higher priority over another.
😊
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